No matter what you do, there is always another kind of life you could have lived.
People seeking romance have always adapted whatever tools are available to them in the hunt for love.
Below, she takes us through a relationship reality check to keep your head clear at every stage of the relationship: On the first date...
Take Nigel, for instance:"It's not that I don't love her, because I do! In this piece, I want to explore exactly what fear of commitment is, why it might have arisen, and, vitally, how to overcome it.
But every time she even hints about a long-term future together, I feel cold and sick to my heart. At the heart of all fear is the dread that something might be lost.
We hear it in the media, as well as use it to describe ourselves or other people who seem chronically unable to decide whether to commit properly to a relationship.
Sometimes such people are tagged 'commitment phobes' .